In Memoriam : Shelly Tozzi

Shelly Tozzi Shelly A Tozzi - age: 46
(September 20, 1972 to March 19, 2019 )
Resident of Chicago, Illinois

Visitation Information:
Visitation Monday, March 25th from 3-9 pm at

Benson Family Funeral Home
3224 W. Montrose Avenue
Chicago, IL 60618

Funeral Service, Tuesday March 26th at 10 am

Interment: Elmhurst Cemetery in Joliet

Family and friends will meet at the cemetery (no procession) for a 1 pm chapel service.

It is with great sadness that the family of Shelly Ann Tozzi, of Chicago, Illinois announce her passing on Tuesday, March 19.
Shelly was born in Joliet, Illinois on September 20, 1972. She is survived by her parents, Candy and John Partilla and her younger sister Jamey Partilla, her husband James (Jim) Tozzi, her children Luca and Lily, and her mother and father-in-law Doris and Carlo Tozzi She was preceded in death by her older sister Stacey Partilla who passed away at the age of 5 years.
She graduated from Providence Catholic High School, Joliet Junior College, Illinois State University and John Marshall Law School.
Shelly married Jim on a beautiful snowy evening on December 10th 2005. Ever the non conformist she wore a brilliant red gown and entered the Grand Ballroom at the train station to the song "Come Away With Me".
Shelly's companion cats - Max and ZuZu were by her side for many years and passed away in their old age. Recently Zen and Bodhi two frisky black cats were adopted by the Tozzi family.

Shelly was many things to many people - she always had time to talk, and was often sought out for her ability to be understanding, practical and compassionate. If you had a problem, it became her problem. Shelly loved her friends and had special relationships with so many people.

Shelly had a passion for research and creating spread sheets. She somehow managed to come up with a spread sheet for everything in her life. Her spread sheets included every detail of the event with perfect grammar and punctuation, color coded with pictures and maps. She was also a great planner whether it be for vacations, parties, outings or packing.

Shelly was known far and wide for her elaborate birthday parties for her children. She began many weeks before the party creating a theme, making elaborate handmade decorations such as the ice castle from Frozen. She baked dozens of beautifully decorated cupcakes. Her secret desire was to own a cupcake bakery.

Her home was decorated for every holiday. Celebrations were encouraged in the Tozzi home. Dancing in the Kitchen was a common event!

Another recent passion was Mandala Dot Painting. She created amazing designs on rocks, small boxes and even a wall in her home. Both Luca and Lily enjoyed creating artwork under her influence and guidance.

Shelly was a talented writer, creating meaningful poetry and other works. Her son Luca appears to be following in her footsteps writing short stories, poetry and he is even working on a book.

Lily is quite the entertainer of the family, creating songs and dances at the drop of a hat.
Lord Byron, a well worn teddy bear resided with Shelly - a gift from her parents on Valentine's Day, 27 years ago.

Visitation will be held on Monday, March 25, from 3 pm to 9 pm. Funeral services will be held Tuesday, March 26 at 10 am at Benson Family Funeral Home, 3224 W. Montrose Avenue, Chicago, Illinois, 60618. Burial will follow at Elmhurst Cemetery,1212 E Washington Street, Joliet, Illinois 60433 at approximately 1 pm at the chapel at Elmhurst Cemetery. Family and friends will be driving separately, no funeral procession.

Memorial donations in Shelly's memory can be made to Trinity Services, Inc., 301 Veterans
Parkway, New Lenox, Illinois 60451, Main Office 815-485-6197

Shelly's favorite poem.

“To live content with small means; to seek elegance rather than luxury, and refinement rather than fashion, to be worthy, not respectable, and wealthy, not rich; to study hard, think quietly, talk gently, act frankly, to listen to stars and birds, to babes and sages, with open heart, to bear all cheerfully, to all bravely await occasions, hurry never. In a word, to let the spiritual unbidden and unconscious grow up through the common. This is to be my symphony.”
― William Henry Channing

Kathleen Brockett - March 23, 2019Contact this person Contact this person
Shelly was a sweet, diligent, yet whimsical student. I recall her as a "rules follower," but take great delight in reading of her stunning entrance and red wedding dress. Always attentive to detail, her perfect grammar and punctuation comes as no surprise. Reading that made me smile. I am in awe of the life she created for herself, her husband, and her children. Perhaps she is an old soul meant to touch many lives over time. Love never dies, and those who knew her will never forget.

Joni Zabel - March 23, 2019Contact this person Contact this person
I am so sorry to hear about Shelly's passing. I searched through pictures for the pics I have of Shelly. So many memories rush through my mind, yet I am at a loss for words. It's harder when it's so sudden. Shelly would have known the words to say. She always had such an awesome way of writing. She had such a talent. I'm sending love, prayers & hugs. Heaven now has another Angel.

David Matchen - March 25, 2019Contact this person Contact this person
Shelly was our law clerk from 1996-98 at a boutique litigation firm directly across the street from the Daley Center, my first "real lawyer job". We worked as an "office within the office", getting complaints filed on time, running depositions, prepping for trials, and generally keeping the world safe for democracy. Without her, Kate, and James, I'd have imploded some time around the second month. She was a brilliant, resilient, and hilarious ray of sunshine in a profession rightly criticized for its humorlessness. We got everyone back together in July 2016 when I was in town for a conference at the only decent Cajun restaurant in the Midwest, Heaven on Seven, and we got her between court obligations, but she was the same old Shelly, still keeping the world safe for democracy. I deeply regret that I am unable to attend her service, but know that I share your loss from out on the East Coast, and wish the family strength during this time.

Jillian Kreczmer-Novosel - March 27, 2019Contact this person Contact this person
I met Shelly at the wedding of her & Jim. I got to know Shelly through Facebook. She was an amazing woman. Absolutely brilliant, kind, caring, loving wife, mother, daughter, sister & friend. I so enjoyed reading her posts about the kids, her feelings on many subjects, her sorrows & her joys. I personally will miss her. My heartbreaks for her husband Jim. Jim was my neighbor when he was growing up. He babysat my sons as they grew up. Jim is the kindest, gentlest, most caring man. He is a great father who will continue to raise their children the way Shelly wanted. God bless you Jim, Luca & Lily. You will always be in my prayers. Shelly will always be in everyone’s heart.❤️

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